5 Signs Your Female Friend Wants More

It can get quite awkward for friends if you feel like your girl-buddy is undressing you with her eyes. Since most girls won’t just say it like it is (“please sleep with me baby”), the love signals they send may be a bit more difficult to detect.

Luckily, the signals can become glaringly obvious once you become attuned to them, as there are certain ways a girl acts when she begins to develop an attraction to a buddy.

Pays Attention to Detail
When I began to crush on a guy who thought of me strictly as a friend, I became way too attentive to everything he’d say. I’d mentally jot down minute details about his life, giving my utmost attention to stories he’d told over and over again.

This was not just because I enjoyed staring into his eyes while he spoke, but also because I figured that details about his life would enlighten me as to the type of partner/boyfriend he would make.

Clues that you guys might notice about your girl-buddy paying way too much attention to you is when she asks you nosy questions like: “So what did you do last Friday/Saturday/Sunday/this morning?” or “What was your last girlfriend/relationship like and whose fault was it that you guys broke up?”

Selective Memory
Not to contradict what I just wrote, but, another clue that I liked him more than just a friend was when I blocked things out of my head that he said and did which to others, were clearly signs of his idiocy.

For example, when friends teased him about his unusually high-pitched voice, I dismissed them as being too judgmental or deaf, because obviously his voice was super sweet and sexy.

Or, when a mutual friend pointed out, after going to the gym, that he stunk and should put on some deodorant, I immediately came to his rescue, saying: “awww, she’s just saying that to be mean, you don’t stink at all.” And when he fell over in the gym one day, knocking over a rack of barbells, making such a ruckus everyone stopped and looked straight at him, I rushed over to help him up and reassured him he didn’t look stupid at all.

Special Treatment
Sometimes we girls don’t even realize what we’re doing when we start to like a friend as something more. After the fact, I realize that I definitely start flirting with a guy friend I like in subtle ways.

I’d invite him over to my place for a special, gourmet lunch, instead of packing a sandwich or grabbing a bite at Subway. And when I bumped into him around campus, I’d get awkward and distraught, stuttering when he asked where I was off to.

Of course, there are even more obvious signs, like when she starts offering to do your school work or to pay your overdue bills. But, unfortunately, this is not too common amongst the female species.

Picking Fights
It can get trickier when the girl is being defensive and goes out of her way to keep her feelings secret. For example, you know she’s being defensive when she starts acting particularly bitchy towards you.

Her insults start getting very personal and way too honest. For example, after telling me about a girl he had previously dated, breaking it off (and leaving the country) without letting her know, I told my friend what a terrible person he was, that he has no moral values or decency and that no girl (except for me, that is) should ever end up with scum like him.

And, when it became clear he wasn’t returning my feelings, I belittled him more often than usual. I’d tell him, in a very serious tone, how immature he was by being too picky, idealistic, and totally naïve he was when it came to hooking up with girls. I guess you could say it’s the female version of boys pulling our hair during recess.

It's Obvious, Right?
After all this, I’m beginning to think some of those “subtle,” hard-to-read signals are in fact bright, red, neon letters that scream: “I’m in love with you, be with me!”

In fact, unless you guys are completely oblivious, you probably, at the very least, have a feeling that your friend is interested in something more than friendship.

More than friends
Now that I’ve laid some of my own experiences bare for you to read, you hopefully have a better idea about what’s going on inside a girl’s head. It can be complicated and a little out there, but it just might help you catch those subtle and sometimes not-so subtle hints that your good ol’ buddy is dreaming about someone special: you!